The Family that Plays Together

....Not to be confused with the family that prays together (stays together), of which we are firmly convinced....

It has just recently become so very clear to me about the importance of family PLAY TIME! 

Ever since we've lived in Calgary, Joe and I have had the luxury of an almost weekly date-night. Often we are watching our budget or short on time, but we still are convinced of what it does for our marriage and so we get out together! This care-free time (even if we have serious conversations!) notably bolsters our communication, unity, and peace. It is also a good shot of joy during the weeks that seem challenging. These days Squirt has become more aware of the fact that her toddler self would like to be the centre of the world and doesn't want us to leave her. We always tell her that Mommy and Daddy need time together so we can be better and more loving parents. While she may not get it, she senses the importance and acquiesces.

As I've said before, the days are long but the weeks fly by and I recognized that there have been seldom moments where Joe and I have given our total attention to playing with our children. While I try to engage in imaginative play while cleaning, nursing, cooking, or driving it is only ever half-brained! So, we've started to make a conscious effort to do activities that are pure play. We've had a few family swims, some simple outdoor play, lots of crafts, and this past weekend we even went to the corn maze!

It is amazing to me how demanding behavior out of my children is lessened throughout the week when there have been a few moments of carefree timelessness as a family. It is just like date night! When we immerse ourselves in joy-filled activities where all other pressures are put on the back burner we are rejuvenated and bolstered. I have been struggling with the question of how to fulfill my children's need for love and attention while not neglecting our home, my husband, or their education (among other things). While this is not the golden ticket, I think I am closer to understanding how to balance it all. Just like Mommy and Daddy, it is OK for our wee ones to move through their week doing their normal activities and, in moments, having to fend for themselves (actually this is probably immensely important for independence!), when there are small moments of all-out play injected into the mundane.

This parenthood thing, it is such a journey. So many moments of discovery and so much to learn! Sometimes I look at my life and wonder how in heavens name I am wife to this incredible man and mother to these beautiful babes. Such a gift, and such responsibility! Here is to many more moments of laughter together for the Packard family.

xoxo